ADD relationships are often fraught with problems, due to one or both partner's Attention Deficit Disorder issues. People who have ADD or ADHD often feel embarrassed or ashamed because of their symptoms, and difficulties they face in every aspect of their lives. Conducting a healthy relationship, for example, is hard work for someone with ADHD. If you have ADHD symptoms, It can be hard to listen or to give your partner your undivided attention, and difficult to remember what your relationship partner tells you. Staying calm and keeping your focus in a serious discussion can be a challenge.
The problem with many ADDers is not that they can't focus (they may have great selective focus), but they tend not to stay focused, especially on something they don't find interesting or important. Let's take a look at a few of my favorite techniques for helping young people and adults with ADHD stay attentive, communicate better and conduct healthy relationships.
ADD can cause major communication problems. And it can make the non-ADD partner wonder if his/her spouse really cares. Focusing and inattention problems can sabotage the best marriages and relationships. I'll give you a few tried-and-true strategies for keeping your focus throughout the day, so you can take steps to improve your ADD relationships.
Also, if you are taking medication, take it regularly. It will give you that extra boost.
If you want your ADD relationship to work, you'll need to become a skilled relationship partner. Not only will you have to learn how to cope with the effects of ADD in your relationship, but you'll have to master basic and advanced relationship skills. I recommend an eBook I wrote for my psychotherapy and coaching clients on solving relationship problems and learning how to conduct successful relationships to serve as your practical guide. It's called Relationship Gold, and it's all about relationship alchemy . . . or the art of turning relationship problems into relationship gold.
You'll discover how to turn the problems into hidden gifts or opportunities in disguise, and using them to build the best possible relationships you can have. Take the extra work out of relationship rescue and build a cutting-edge relationship that will withstand the test of time. Learn how to affair-proof your marriage and make difficult relationships thrive.
ADD relationships face hurdles that other relationships may not face. ADD has a big impact on relationships. ADD affects communication, problem solving and the handling of conflict. Somehow those with ADD never seem to say what's really on their minds, or may not pay attention to their spouses when they the spouses need to be heard. Many neglect the emotional aspects of their relationships.
Couples with one or both ADD partners should work hard to lessen the side effects of ADD and help their relationship to go smoothly. It takes working together and planning together to reap success. So think about ADD and relationships. Patience and compassion, careful communication, a sense of humor and the willingness to laugh at your own mistakes can help.
Remember that ADD relationships struggle with communication, and strive to communicate rather than allowing yourself to become discouraged and avoiding communication!
Untreated ADHD can lead to very real frustration, disappointment and under-achievement. Don't let your ADHD symptoms derail your plans for happiness and success. Harness the assistance from your family, friends and colleagues, instead of going it alone. And don't forget to reach out for professional help. It can make a big difference in your coping skills and prevent you from under-achieving.
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ADHD disorders are common in today's world and pose many risks and problems.
Living well with ADHD requires staying on your toes and creating the right environment for success. You'll find it easier to succeed and stay focused if you avoid the pitfalls of trying to deal with your disorder alone. Just get some encouragement, avoid criticality, and be patient, and it'll be easier to tame your wandering mind. And remember to take notes, choose a seat wisely and do little things to keep yourself alert and on the right track. Find ways to neutralize the ill-affects of ADD relationships. You'll enjoy your life more and you'll be more successful in all you do by staying attentive.
Good luck! Just let me know if you need more help. I'll be glad to offer assistance.