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Happy Relationships Matter, Issue #66 -- It's Here! No more Waiting!
December 07, 2015
Welcome To The Latest Issue Of Relationships Matter!
HELLO from Richard Hamon, LMFT . . . here’s the answer you’ve been waiting for and the guidance you need to TRANSFORM your relationship problems into pure GOLD.
Welcome to the HOLIDAY Issue of Relationships Matter! Read about:
-- What You Can Do About Stubborn Relationship Problems
Some relationship problems can be hard to solve. Instead of writing another version of War and Peace, I'll just address a few tactics you can use to get a leg up on some of the most stubborn problems people are facing today. But, first, let me say, HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
Okay, I promised to keep it brief, right? So here goes . . .
MY TOP TEN TRICKS FOR SOLVING RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. Nip COMMUNICATION problems in the bud.
Big and small corporations struggle with communication, just as ball teams and religious organizations, and groups of every kind. COUPLES are no different. Parents and kids are the same.
That's why the singe greatest problem a relationship faces is the challenge of communicating effectively. If you want to improve communication with your spouse, kid, boss, neighbor, coach, or whomever, try this:
How? Assume nothing. You may think they know what you're thinking and feeling, but they may not. So spell it out. Express yourself. Don't expect your relationship partner to automatically just know where you stand. Usually we need to say it more than once.
2. Use I-statements to advantage.
It may be a simple step, but we adults often leave it out. For example, you can say, "I like what we're doing." "I think we're headed in the right direction." Or, "I have a problem here . . ." "Hey, you're doing a good job." "I appreciate you. Thank you so much!"
Whatever you think, feel or believe, say it. And begin the sentence with I. The listener will hear you.
3. Don't forget to listen selflessly.
After you say what you need to say, listen to what the other person needs to say, but encourage them to be honest and direct with you through your willingness to calmly hear and receive all of their message.
You needn't agree, but do show your understanding and acceptance of their different point of view.
4. Turn potential conflict into a win-win situation.
Start by realizing that conflict can actually bring people closer together. The way you handle conflict or respond to criticism can endear your partner or friend to you. As long as you don't go nuts or get mad, and hear them out, you will win their respect, even if you completely disagree with their point of view.
5. Honor your differences.
Allow your partner to have a different point of view, embrace it and do your best to understand it.
Avoid judging. People don't have to agree with us to like us. Your politics, religion or personal likes may vary significantly from your partner's. That's fine. You can still work with him/her and you can still give your love and respect. Always WORK to understand what they truly believe.
6. Avoid giving contempt because you disagree.
Why behave like a egotistical child? Agree to disagree. And practice love. When you don't know what to do, love is usually the answer. Instead of arguing, spend your time getting to know the other person's thoughts and feelings so well that you can see how they arrive at their conclusions.
7. Stop trying to change your spouse, your partner or business associate.
Accept them the way they are. And work on your own personal issues. You aren't perfect, even if you're trying to be, which I do not recommend. (Perfectionism or the pursuit of perfection makes people crazy.)
8. Give up criticizing people.
Criticism implies judgement, often harsh, and disapproval . . . and besides there are smarter ways to go about things. Use your head. Be creative. Why put people down? Offer a message that the other person can hear without becoming defensive. Work on the practice of greater acceptance...which requires COURAGE.
9. Try to eliminate your defensive attitudes and behaviors.
Such strategies push people apart. Move closer to others by OPENING your heart. Your ears and your mind. By giving encouragement.
10. Focus on the positive. Think of the ways you and others are alike, not different. We all tend to get hypnotized by our thoughts, so let it be good thoughts that affect you the most.
A Powerful, Life-Changing Resolution
A good New Year's Resolution for anyone would be to: Open Your Heart, Mind and Ears to all those around you.
Ain't ever easy, but it has the power to change lives. Do something different this coming year . . . and make a big change in yourself, which others will feel and enjoy. Give the gift that keeps on giving. FOCUS on what you can do for others, not what they can do for you.
And, I'll make a prediction. You'll get much more love coming your way.
Hope you will try some of my techniques for improving the QUALITY of relationships. Have a happy and healthy holiday!!!
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The book contains refreshing insights, effective strategies and short-cuts, designed to help you fix your own relationship problems and, in some cases, avoid counseling and therapy.
You'll get TIPS that only a seasoned professional could know – tips I’ve garnered from my over three and half decades of professional experience. You’ll find interesting and instructive stories and case scenarios in it, too. Priced below the cost of 30 minutes of therapy, Relationship Gold shouldn't hurt your bank account too much. Grab your copy and learn how to improve or save your relationships quickly and effectively today.
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Find Help for These Problems:
1. You and your partner can't stop fighting
2. You’re about to give up on your relationship or marriage
3. You have lost an important relationship and don’t know how to get it back
4. You want to make your good romantic relationship bullet-proof, affair-proof and cutting edge
5. You want to enjoy all the benefits your relationships can give you, but feel your relationships are not reaching their potential
6. You’re stuck in a relationship rut, you’ve lost your passion and you want to re-invigorate your relationship
7. Your romantic life has hit rock-bottom, or has been slipping, and you want to re-ignite your sex life and make it sizzle again
8. You’re still holding on to your relationship, but you and your partner have grown distant from each other, and you want to be best friends again and communicate better
9. You let your relationship go, while you attended to other things, but time has gone by and now you can’t seem to get your relationship back on track
10. You want to take your relationships more seriously, and get more out of them, but you aren’t sure how to go about it
If you’d like more information on Relationship Gold, go to my website (www.happy-relationships.com) and click on the Relationship Gold button under OUR E-PRODUCTS.
Happy Holidays to you and yours from the Hamon Group, LLC.
Thanks for reading The Hamon Group, LLC newsletter everyone, and have a great day. I’ll see you again soon.
Richard E. Hamon, LMFT, CCMHC, NCC Licensed Therapist Certified Coach Board Certified Supervisor
P.S. It's been a pleasure having you as a newsletter reader. Let me know if you have any ideas or suggestions for future issues!!! Or if you need help with anything at all.
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