This article on heart disease and relationships will help you to reclaim your life, after you've had a heart attack or other heart event. Sadly, heart disease is a serious health issue in the United States and many industrialized nations, and exerts a toll on one’s marriage. Many patients who have had heart attacks leave the hospital without knowing whether it’s okay to resume their married life. The entire topic of romance may be completely ignored by a patient’s doctor or health care provider.
Many people who have survived a serious heart attack are not sure when it’s okay to become romantic again, or whether all romantic activity is a no-no. These types of questions a patient should always discuss with his or her doctor, but he/she may have to ask since some hospitals are notorious for allowing heart patients to leave the hospital without clear instructions on after-care.
Naturally, heart patients want to resume normal relationships with their spouses, as soon as possible, and they want to resume healthy activities. There are guidelines published by the American Heart Association for how to accelerate healing after a heart attack, and the patient should familiarize himself with these. But nothing beats staying in touch with your doctor and asking as many questions as possible. Your cardiologist may be too busy to answer, so you may have to be persistent. Whatever you do, don’t remain in the dark. And don’t worry about becoming a nuisance. Get the information you need. It is your life that matters.
Get counseling from a mental health professional if you have anxiety or fear about resuming your activities, or you are experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or other mental conditions. Many heart attack victims suffer from PTSD or they have such strong fears about having another heart attack, they're afraid to get back to their normal lives. Depending on your prognosis, it may take time to recover.
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#1) Follow your doctor’s after-care instructions. Avoid making the mistake of thinking you know more about heart disease than your physician.
#2) Take you medications as prescribed. They will protect your heart and rebuild function.
#3) Change your diet. Eat a sensible and disciplined diet. Focus on a whole, natural diet, avoiding processed food and sugar. Diets very low in saturated fat are protective against heart disease.
#4) Exercise as you are permitted. The more you can exercise in safe ways, the better for your heart. After all, your heart is a muscle. Get your physician’s approval first, and wait to start your exercise program until you have the doctor’s okay.
#5) Manage your stress. Stress is dangerous and silently stalks its victims. Develop a plan for addressing stress in your life and devote the necessary time to preventing stress. Taking care of yourself is of critical importance!
#6) Get plenty of rest. Rest gives your body a chance to heal itself. When you are sleeping is when your body does its best work.
#7) Learn to handle conflict in sensible and effective ways without getting upset or angry. Marital conflict and relationship discord are natural problems, after a heart attack.
First of all, the many heart patients will be prone to anger. This is a normal result of having a heart attack. You may need help in dealing with your anger. Don't be afraid to ask.
Secondly, the patient’s spouse may be unsure of how to handle the patient’s health concerns and emotions. A heart attack changes everything.
It is only natural for the heart patient and his/her spouse to have questions, concerns and fears about resuming marital relations. No one wants to over-tax the patient and trigger another heart attack!The fear of doing something wrong or resuming sexual activity too quickly may is common for both the patient and the spouse.
When you have heart disease, anxiety may make it more difficult to relax and feel good about engaging in romance in a relationship. This tends to decrease over time. Some patients may experience flashbacks which can impact romance in negative ways. Flashbacks or the fear of having flashbacks can be a problem for some patients.
The best way to deal with any psychological symptom is to seek the help of a licensed therapist. Treatment for anxiety, panic or trauma can be quite effective, if you get the right help. My suggestion is not to delay, but find the help you need quickly. Ask your physician for a recommendation, if necessary.
You can decrease the amount of stress and marital conflict you have if you practice good communication skills. Be sure to talk with your spouse often about any fears or concerns you may have. Spouses should always listen because victims of heart attacks need to talk. Seek your spouse’s advice and input in all matters. This can be an opportunity for you to become closer to your spouse, and can improve your relationship. Spouses play a big role in the patient’s recovery.
A heart attack can bring spouses closer together, and enhance the quality of marriage. It can signal the need for improving the relationship, as well. There is no better time than after a heart attack to make an effort to improve any romantic relationship since the partners realize how precious life is and how precious the relationship should be. Use the time to improve on marital conflict.
Relationships with family members can be extremely helpful to a heart patient . . . helpful in many ways. Certainly they can offer support, care and affection during the recovery or convalescence stages. They can give the patient hope and confidence. And something to look forward to in the future. And . . . they should have a positive and therapeutic affect. Be sure to engage in healthy relationships.
Unhealthy or problematic relationships can create excess stress and tax your emotions. If your family is part of your problem, stress-wise, work on solving the problem or get professional help. Counseling can help you to develop healthy boundaries and coach you into building stronger, less troublesome alliances with family members and friends.
1. Don’t try to come back too quickly . . . take your time in rebuilding your health.
2. Resume your previous lifestyle gradually, while making the necessary changes in diet, exercise and other aspects of your life.
3. If you need to stop smoking, stop! What a joy it will be to finally rid your body of all those impurities and toxins, and to recover normal breathing patterns. What a joy it is to breathe deeply again!
4. Family relationships can be extremely helpful to a heart patient . . . helpful in many ways. But be sure to engage in healthy relationships, not dysfunctional ones. If your family is part of your problem, stress-wise, get some professional help.
Remember . . . relationships can help you to recover from heart disease. And while you are recovering, there is no better time to think about how you can improve your relationships. Good relationships will make you a happier and healthier person. Take care of your relationships and your relationships will take care of you!
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