Welcome To The Latest Issue Of Relationships Matter!
Welcome to the June issue of Happy Relationships Matter!
I apologize for not getting the eZine out to you on a regular basis. My private practice has been growing by leaps and bounds, and has taken all my time and energy. But I am back in the saddle, as far as writing and publishing a monthly eZine is concerned. Thank you for your patience.
Keep your eye on future issues. I will offer GREAT deals on eBooks, CDs, Courses and other items that will help you improve your relationsihps and increase your happiness quotient. Discounts will be the DEEPEST for my subscribers, so don't miss an issue!
THE JUNE ISSUE
In this issue you'll get information on how to overcome those depressing times and experiences that everyone has from time to time. And tips on other mental health topics of interest to everyone.
And I have news . . .
GOOD NEWS! If you are in need of therapy or counseling, and you live in Kentucky, please go to my website to learn more about my services.
My new office is located in the Hamburg area of Lexington, Kentucky, and is very easy to get to. It is located near I-75 and I-64, and is close to all parts of the city.
I am accepting a few new clients for individual, couple or family sessions. I take most types of insurance and offer a sliding fee scale. You may schedule your appointment on line, too. Just click onto the escheduler button and you can select the time and date of your appointment without making a single telephone call.
HOW TO GET HELP FOR DEPRESSION WITHOUT REALLY TRYING
If you want to get help for depression, you may not need a pill box, or months of therapy. The help you’ve been looking for may be hidden in your own mind. And it’s as easy to use as your front door key. All you have to do is learn how to think in a way that minimizes depression and maximizes happiness. Unless you are severely depressed, in which case medication and psychotherapy are in order, to get help for depression all you need to do is give yourself a break and take a walk!
How To Walk For Maximum Effect
While taking your walk, focus on observing nature and thinking inspirationally. I tell my psychotherapy and coaching clients that taking regular walks can work wonders for them, and walking can help you, too. If you go about it in the right way . . . and your depression will decrease.
Here’s how: Find the beauty in the world around you. Instead of focusing on the rusty chain link fence, or the dizzying array of power lines overhead, use your powers of observation to find and savor the beauty in your field of vision. Notice the cat curled up on a window sill, the butterflies hovering above the flower bed, the tiny bird’s nest in the lilac bush or the impressive clouds that float above you.
Now savor: Take some time to savor those butterflies or clouds. And that means taking a good, long look at them. Get lost in their beauty. Observe their activities. Try to commit an interesting aspect of their appearance to memory, so you can sketch it or tell someone about it later.
Why does this stuff work?
It’s a nice, pleasant distraction. First, it helps you forget about depression and gets you to stop dwelling on it. And it second, it connects you with nature, and nature is a powerful healing agent! Third, watching those pretty little birds and bees, and cloud formations or whatever, can be lots of fun!
Tips for Dealing with Depression
– Turn off your phone.
– Forget about your problems and take a walk.
– Treat yourself to some fresh air and allow yourself to let go of tension and simply relax. It’ll do you lots of good, and it will recharge your brain.
– Keep your walk positive by breathing deeply and moving freely. Just enjoy the motions of your walk. Relish the joy of being out of doors and breathing in some fresh air.
– Smile at passersby, dogs and cats and falling leaves, sunsets and sunrises.
The depressed mind wants to find the negative in everything and revel in pain, so avoid the temptation to think of problems and predict gloom and doom for your future endeavors. If you catch yourself fretting and worrying, simply focus on an attractive or intriguing aspect of the world around you, and let it take you away.
For example, this morning, I took a walk on a quiet, country road and stopped to watch and listen to a breeding pair of Baltimore Orioles as they played along an overgrown fence row. I must have spent ten minutes standing still and watching my feathery friends. Man, that felt good! I am still feeling the positive effects, six hours later!
Exercise is a powerful natural anti-depressant, so why not put it to good use? Combine a little exercise with simple observation skills and you’ll get that relaxation gig going for yourself. Not a bad combination! While you’re at it, don’t forget to revel in all your senses. Feel the breeze tickling your face, and listen to it rustling in the leaves. Smell those roses and let their perfumed scent lift you above and beyond your depressive thought patterns.
HOW CAN YOU TELL IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ABUSIVE?
Every person on this planet has the right to be in healthy relationships free from abuse and manipulation, to be loved on his or her merit . . . to be loved, respected and cherished.
Yet so many people who come into coaching or therapy are in an abusive relationship. Sometimes the abuse is subtle. But it's still abuse.
Those who abuse others are not honest with themselves or their partners. They deny accountability. They refuse to accept responsibility for their actions. Often they blame the victim or justify their violence in intellectual ways. Or they may distort the facts, minimize the truth and wallow in self-pity, manipulating their victim to get what they want.
TYPES OF ABUSE
There are many types of abuse, such as the physically abusive relationship. A relationsihp can be sexually exploitive, as well. Verbally abusive relationships are common and tend to fly beneath the radar, but my clients tell me that verbal abuse is just as damaging, if not more, than physical abuse.
Saying hurtful things or making critical and condescending remarks to your partner constitutes verbal abuse, degrades your relationship, and will eventually undo a relationship. Learn how to handle your disappointment and unhappiness WITHOUT putting it onto your partner!
KEEP IN MIND
If you are in an abusive relationship, be careful. Quite often the abuse becomes more controlling and violent if the abuser's methods do not work. And remember . . .
As control over a person increases, genuine love, respect and justice DECREASE in a relationship.
If you are in an abusive relationship, take steps to stop the abuse or get out of the relationship. You desereve to be treated better.
NEW HAPPINESS EBOOK
I am very pleased to announce the publication of my new eBook on how to lead a happier, more fulfilling life based on the latest research in psychology. The book is finished and has been edited. I am seeking a copyright for the book at this time, and will soon be available for sale on my site. I will give all my ezine readers first dibs, along with a handsome discount. Stay tuned. Ifll publish a special edition of Happy Relationships Matter! To let you know when the book is ready and will enclose your special discount code.
Thanks for reading my ezine . . . and I will see you again next month!
Richard E. Hamon, LMFT
Your Relationship Coach and Therapist
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