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Happy Relationships Matter, Issue #55 -- It's Here! No more Waiting!
October 03, 2012
Greetings Everyone!

Welcome To The Latest Issue Of Relationships Matter!

October Edition

Welcome to the October issue of Happy Relationships Matter! The Hamon Group, LLC hopes you have been having an enjoyable and productive fall! Thank you for reading our electronic newsletter.

Keep your eye on future issues. We will offer GREAT deals on eBooks, CDs, Courses and other items that will help you improve your relationships and increase your happiness quotient. Discounts will be the DEEPEST for our subscribers, so don't miss an issue!

Plus, we have new eBooks coming out, along with a new RELAXATION CD, all written and performed by Richard Hamon, LMFT. Richard is working on a relationship enhancement workshop, too. See next month's ezine. It will be offered on Saturdays here in Lexington. There will be an electronic version, too, and it will be available as a downloadable course.

We'll keep you posted on new undertakings in the future.


In this issue you'll get information on a variety of mental health topics. Let me know if you want me to write about a specific topic of intertest in the future.


If you are in need of counseling and therapy, and you live in central Kentucky, please go to my website to learn more about my services. You may also sign up for Life Coaching services, if you prefer.

Our office is located in the Hamburg area of Lexington, Kentucky, and is very easy to get to. It is located near I-75 and I-64, and is close to all parts of the city.

We are accepting only a very few new clients for individual, couple or family sessions, and it takes a couple of weeks to get on the schedule. We accept most types of insurance along with credit cards. You may want to call Ginny, before setting up an appointment on our eScheduler, to find out if we have any openings for new clients. Her number is 859-264-1175. This month's feature article . . .


One important key to a happy marriage is whether the spouses know and honor their respective dreams. Or have they forgotten or abandoned their dreams because the marriage has not been strong enough to offer support for reaching dreams?

It is very important for each spouse to honor the other's dreams, and to help him/her fulfill them. At a minimum, the spouses can provide support and tolerance, but it's even better when they actually share in the dreams more fully as a partner.

If one spouse wants to be an artist and develop her full talent, what happens if her spouse ignores her hopes and dreams and discounts her potential? That's right, it can wreck the relationship. Or at least dampen the couple's potential for happiness.

What can happen to a couple that cannot honor each other's dreams on any given level? Gridlock. Frustration, pessimism and disconnection. And if you have a spouse who is all about himself, and can't be there for you and your dreams and aspirations? You will end up feeling anger and resentment that can sabatoge the marriage.

Dreams are important, folks. Very important. So why not ask what your spouse's dreams are (if you don't know)? And ask what you can do to help? Then make it your business to be more supportive, from here on out. Your marriage will be so much better!


1. You have to hit bottom before you can change. In other words, you have to be ready to change before you can change.

This is an olod idea, perpetuated by the recovering community in years past. Today, people are often referred to treatment before they accept that they have a problem. Now we believe that it's possible to help a person increase motivation, and increase opportunities to to develop readiness for change. Due to this change, more substance abusers are entering treatment earlier now.

2. Addiction must be treated first, then other issues. In the past, therapists would concentrate on the addiction and ignore everything else, until the addiction was under control. Nowadays we try to address the addiction plus any mental health issues or needs that may be impacting the client. A well-rounded, multi-phasic approach can be more supportive of the client and bring about successful change more quickly.

3. Denial and resistance to treatment must be dealt with first. That idea has long been associated with the addiction field, but now we know that confronting a client can make the denial and resistance even more stubborn. And confronting in the wrong way can be counterproductive. It is often more helpful to increase motivation than to harp on a client's shortcoming or issues.

Get Help Now

If you or a loved one has an addiction problem, take it seriously and get help now. Every relationship in your life will benefit. And your happiness with increase a thousand fold. Today's treatment community is more progressive and effective than ever before. And there is no better time than the present to make a wonderful change in your life.


The happiness research indicates that optimistic people are happier than their more pessimistic counterparts, and respond more favorably to life's ups and downs. Optimism helps job seekers, for example, but can hurt an entrepreneur who may draw overly positive conclusions from limited data, concerning a new venture.

So let optimism be your default attitude, but use pessimism constructively, when the situation calls for it!

So Long and Take Care

Well, that's it for now, folks. Stay tuned next month.

Check out our exciting new developments and services. Have a great autumn, and thanks for reading our eZine!

Richard E. Hamon, LMFT Your Relationship Coach and Therapist

P.S. It's been a pleasure having you as a newsletter reader. Please let me know if you have any ideas or suggestions for future issues!!! Or if you need help with anything.

Ezine Articles

In addition to writing articles for Happy, I write articles for, and they get the articles published on the internet. In the past couple years, I have written over 100 articles on all kinds of mental health and self-improvement topics, such as depression and anxiety, loneliness, leadership and management, happiness, relationships, near death experiences, meditation, hypnosis, parenting strong, resilient kids, and interpreting your dreams, etc.

If you'd like to see some of my articles, feel free to run over to, and look up my author's page.

Get the links below . . .

Go to my Happy Relationships website here.
Look into my Relationship Solutions eBook here.
Look up all my articles here.

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