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Happy Relationships Matter, Issue #62 -- It's Here! No more Waiting!
September 20, 2014
Greetings Everyone!

Welcome To The Latest Issue Of Relationships Matter!

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Tips On How To Keep Your Relationship Alive

Many mature relationships eventually slip into a rut. Here are a few tips for keeping your all-important relationships vibrant and in the pink.

1. Super-busy? Got problems? Refuse to set your relationship on the back burner of the stove; you may never put it back on the front burner. Don't sacrifice your sex life for any reason. Even if the two of you disagree about things or have your fair share of disappointments with each other, keep your love life going.

2. How to keep romance?

By keeping your friendship alive. You and your spouse need to have a special friendship. Don't let yourselves drift apart. Do things together. Have fun. Confide in each other. Listen and give support. Friendship fuels the flames of romance.

3. By taking care of yourself you'll take care of your marriage. If you look and feel your best, your love life will shine.

When you go to the gym to work out, remember you aren't just doing it for yourself, but for your special significant other. And your children. You're sending them a positive message and being a good role model.

4. Have fun together . . . just you and your significant other. Do things you both love doing. Go on frequent mini-vacations. Get away together in a beautiful place. Spend time in nature.

By following these guidelines and tips, you'll keep your relationship in tip-top shape, you'll be happier and live longer.

Saving Broken Relationships

Five ways to improve and ultimately save your marriage:

1. Raise problems calmly (not angrily) 2. Bring up concerns sooner, not later, and resolve them now 3. Avoid getting intensely upset when you disagree with your spouse . . . learn to disagree with grace and dignity 4. Do not escalate the most minor arguments, diffuse them by acting quickly and assertively 5. Change your behavior when your spouse requests it . . . it's your job to please him/her, not just yourself, and to grow and improve

If you fight, make up QUICKLY.

So, what else can can you do to empower or save your relationship? Here is a list of suggestions that have helped many couples . . .

How To Save Your Relationship

1. Rather than trying to win the argument, try to better understand your partner's point of view; walk a mile in his/her shoes.

2. Phrase criticism as a request, and put it in a non-demanding way

3. Agree to disagree in a civil fashion

4. Work it out so both spouses can save face and feel as though they're winning

5. Make at least five positive remarks for every one negative remark

6. Focus on the present specific concern or complaint, and not the past, or past mistakes and failures

7. Use a sense of humor, be reassuring

8. If you get too emotional, end the argument and finish later

9. Make up quickly

10. Avoid placing blame -- ask what you can do to improve the relationship. Be responsible for your own mistakes and limitations.

These are just some of the skills successful couples use to solve relationship problems and find success in marriage. Why not take a tip or two from them?

Even some of the happiest couples have gone through hard, seemingly impossible times, but they triumphed in the end. And you can too, if you take the right steps.

What about breathing new life into a stagnant marriage?

Tips For Restoring Romance:

1. Play more often -- together

2. Cook together and try new dishes

3. Read picture books together or read to your spouse

5. Set aside a weekly date night, just like you did when you were courting.

6. Take turns being in charge of romance -- and plan some nice surprises for your spouse

7. Add variety and novelty to your love life -- experiment!

8. Learn to do with quickies when there is no time for the full course meal

9. Treat your partner to a night out on the town and roll out the red carpet

10. Listen and be responsive -- when your partner makes a bid for affection, grant his/her wish

Whatever you do, spend more time with the one you love, be more positive and loving, and you'll make more memories, grow closer together and your friendship will fuel the flames of romance.


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So Long Until Next Time

Well, that's it for now, folks. Stay tuned for the next issue!

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Richard E. Hamon, LMFT, CCMHC, NCC Licensed Therapist Certified Coach Board Certified Supervisor

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