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Welcome To The Latest Issue Of Relationships Matter!

HELLO from Richard Hamon, LMFT . . . Please accept MY APOLOGIES. The incomplete ezine we just sent out yesterday was sent by mistake. Here is the finished version. Happy reading.

Welcome to the October issue of Relationships Matter! My topic for this issue is about using Near Death Experience (NDE) wisdom to build great relationships, and to make yourself happier, wiser and more successful.

What Can We Learn from Near Death Experiences?

Near Death Experiences (NDEs) offer us a unique look at the after life, provide us with heart-warming and extraordinary inspiration, and promise to give us the tools to transform our lives. In this article I'll show you how to take advantage of NDE-wisdom to improve your life...without having to have your own NDE!

Amazingly, most people who have a NDE undergo a personal transformation that changes their lives for the better. Research shows the changes they make, as a result of their amazing experiences, stay with them for many years.

In other words, NDEs are life-altering encounters that often result in spiritual awakening. We can glean powerful truths from their stories, and learn how to awaken the sleeping giant within.

Improve Your Relationships Right Now

NDEers tend to be less judgmental, less critical of others, and more accepting than they were before their brush with death. They have a newfound capacity for loving people despite their faults, and for truly loving their enemies.

When I had a NDE about 15 years ago, I awakened in a hospital bed, totally surprised to find my family and friends surrounding my bed, greeting me with smiling faces. I can't tell you what a relief it was to see them all standing there. I felt love like I'd never felt for everyone. Any past disagreements or problems were vanquished, and all I could see in everyone was something good. I saw everyone for their strengths, not their weaknesses. I focused only on the strengths and their beautiful souls. I'm not sure how else to say it.

In day-to-day life, we often get hung up on our differences, or we allow criticism or harsh judgements to interfere with our relationships. My NDE showed me how foolish that is. I opened my heart and let people climb in. You can, too.

You don't need to have a NDE to open up your heart, stop being critical or to stop finding fault with others. You can make a decision to do better right now.

Research demonstrates that criticism and contempt are damaging to relationships, and often tear them down. Yet, well-meaning people go right on being super-critical and continue to express contempt toward those they love.

But it doesn't work.

There is no earthly purpose served by criticism. It just puts the other person down and they often perceive it as an attack.

Stop criticizing your relationship partner and become more accepting of his/her faults. Your relationship will improve dramatically. If you want your partner to change, there are better ways to go about it than criticizing, blaming, "terribilizing" or showering your partner with punishments of various sorts.

Take a tip from any NDEer worth his salt, and see just how amazingly wonderful the people around you really are, and love them with a full and open heart.

How Else Can NDEs Help?

The average NDEer is not interested in gaining power over others, or gaining power in the world. World domination is definitely not on their Do List!

Materialistic gain, amassing a personal fortune or securing a position of power and influence is not worthy of their attention. Instead, they're much more interested in living a quiet, peaceful and honest life, one in which they enjoy relationships, delight in the simple joys of life and spend their time learning new things.

Yes, NDEers have personal problems like everyone else, and their radical new changes can put them at odds with their families and friends. Still, they feel on top of the world, and they appreciate life more than ever, finding the hidden beauty in the quiet life around them. They want to help others and bring peace to the world. They know that giving truly is the greatest pleasure. They are drawn to a rich, interior life, and feel a deep commitment to their burgeoning spirituality.

Spirituality, not religiosity. Most NDEers have little interest in dogma or religious narcissism, and they know in the recharged cells in their brains that it ain't about all that "we're better than everyone else on the planet stuff."

So, how can you apply this wisdom to your life? That depends upon you and your situation, but you can always start by taking a good, strong look within, and asking how you can become a better person and a better partner. Ask yourself if you're living the best life you can possibly lead. Ask yourself what you need to change. Ask yourself what your issues are -- the issues you may have been defensive about. And man or woman up. Be the bigger person, the one you've always wanted to be.

NDEers have newfound courage and a powerful fearlessness. They are not afraid of death and they are not afraid of life. They try to embrace life with every ounce of their being. They try to revitalize their lost dreams. And they face the truth. They are often so brutally honest they get themselves into trouble.

But, you know, I prefer friends who tell me the truth, not those who tell me what I want to hear.

Hey, I can't help but thinking there are many good lessons embedded in that . . . lessons we can all benefit from.

Try This Challenge

If you want to rebuild a relationship or solve a relationship problem, try taking a page form the NDE play book. Pretend you just had a NDE and now you are filed with the light of love. What would you do?

What changes would you make in your life?

How would people be able to tell you just had a powerful inner awakening?

In Sum

We can learn so much from NDEs. Learning to see others in a more positive light, letting go of criticism and contempt, and living and loving fearlessly are a few of the more powerful tips we can take from the 5% of the population who die but come back to life.

Let me know how you're doing. And good luck to you! Thank you for reading this month's article on NDEs.

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Richard E. Hamon, LMFT Licensed Therapist & Certified Coach

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