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Loneliness, communication, stress
January 22, 2017
Welcome To The Latest Issue Of Relationships Matter!
HELLO from Richard Hamon, LMFT . . .
Here are the articles I promised you that were missing in my recent eZine. Sorry for the confusion!
Loneliness is our main topic this month, and here is your loneliness article with tips for overcoming lonely feelings, surviving a lonely marriage or the lonely state of depression.
How to Overcome Loneliness and Improve Your Relationships
There are simple and effective ways to cure loneliness, yet loneliness remains a serious problem in today’s world. People are often afraid to seek new friends or don’t know if they can trust strangers. Online sites may seem risky.
People may not know where to go to find a good friend, or where to turn in time of need. And some individuals may be surrounded by people, yet . . . they still feel lonely and unfulfilled. It may be a struggle to stop feeling lonely in the midst of a crowd.
A Good First Step
The best way to cure loneliness is to fully accept that you are lonely and to become aware of how loneliness is affecting your life.
Defense mechanisms may prevent people from recognizing just how lonely they feel. And they may be compensating for loneliness in various ways, such as working, drinking, or partying too much, perhaps in an effort to push aside empty or sad feelings.
Or some people may hang out with the wrong friends to deal with their loneliness . . . friends who may be a bad influence.
Sometimes people deny their loneliness or try to ignore chronic lonely feelings and despair. Also, some folks who have been lonely for a long time feel like their loneliness is incurable. Thus, they never really try to solve the loneliness puzzle.
No matter what your situation may be, here's the good news: you can cure loneliness with a minimum of effort! No, it’s not as hard to do as you may think. Simply take the right action.
Of course, if a person’s loneliness has led to a depressive condition . . . . . . he or she may have a hard time trying to break through the barrier of discouragement to explore possible solutions and anecdotes. But it can be done!
Steps You Can Take To Cure Loneliness
Step 1. Figure out where you can find some good, true friends -- new friends. Visiting your local watering hole, lounge or bar may not be the best choice. So where can you go?
Reading your local newspaper may be a good place to start. Even in small town papers, you’ll find articles on community events, and the activities of groups and organizations. If one interests you, make some phone calls and look into it.
For example . . .
Let’s say you love gardening. And you read an article about the local chapter of a gardening club and what they are doing in your area. Call a contact person or representative and ask how you can become involved with the group. Go to their next meeting and meet some people. Go to the meetings and participate in a project.
You’ll meet some mighty fine people, have fun doing work you love and learn more about gardening; plus, you’ll be able to share your gardening wisdom with others . . . all of which will make you feel LESS lonely.
Step 2. Think about ways you can be of service to others in need. By finding a way to help others, your own emotional needs will often be met, and it will help you to cure loneliness in a big way. When we give of the heart we receive of the heart. The act of doing a good deed pushes out lonely feelings and opens the door to feeling more connected with others, and engenders a sense of belonging and attachment.
In touching someone’s life, our loneliness dissipates. And our service opens new doors of opportunity and connection.
Step 3. Search the internet for organizations doing good work in your community, or groups devoted to a hobby or interest of yours, get info and go to a meeting. Get involved in one or two. Offer your expertise or time. You’ll meet lots of good people who are trying to make a difference in the world. And just one new friend may make a difference in your life . . . and help you to cure loneliness!
Step 4. One of my favorite ways to cure loneliness (one I heartily recommend to my clients) is to go within and consult the wisdom of your body. You probably have good ideas locked within yourself, just waiting to be uncovered. Perhaps they have been trying to come to your attention through dreams, or day dreams, but you haven’t noticed or you’ve been too busy to follow up on your good ideas.
Just how do you find the treasure-trove of helpful information hidden within? It’s easier than you might think! Pay attention to your daydreams and fantasies, which can be useful ways of exploring logical opportunities for change.
Think about how you can cure loneliness before you fall asleep, increasing the likelihood you’ll dream about it. Write your dreams down as soon as you awaken. Analyze the symbols to unlock the wisdom of your dreams.
Think freely and openly! Brainstorm to find as many good ideas as you can. You can do insight meditation, too, a powerful technique for plumbing the depths of your inner mind.
Step 5. Take a tip from the happiness literature. The recent research on happiness reveals the secrets of happy people and shows the way to cure the lonely, heavy-hearted blues. The research suggests that the happiest people are those who are outgoing and optimistic types who actively seek to connect with others.
So, why not go out and make good things happen, rather than waiting for good things to come to you? Anyone can take a tip from the extroverts and develop an action plan to decrease their loneliness. Start with that first step. Make something good happen. Call or visit someone. Get information.
Be bold . . .
Remember to avoid sitting back and feeling defeated. Put a smile on your face and do something different to cure your loneliness.
Step 6. Last but not least is my final suggestion for this article. Take in a decision making partner. Ask a good friend or trusted ally to help you cure your loneliness. Talk to your pastor, priest or rabbi, or other spiritual leader, speak to a professional counselor or coach, and take their suggestions seriously.
If you are religious or spiritually oriented, ask your Higher Power for help, and trust in your faith. The help you seek will come to you in one form or another.
The Best News Of All
We’ve come to the end of our article and it’s time for me to reveal the best news of all . . . What is my terrific news? A secret technique or amazingly magical strategy to cure loneliness? It’s just a simple word of advice. Believe!
Believe you can and you will find a way to cure your loneliness and be happier than ever. Everyone gets lonely at times. It’s nothing to be ashamed of or to fear.
Just take your loneliness in stride, avoid despair and take the right steps . . . simple steps . . . that will eventually result in an improvement of your condition. Plus, don't forget to believe . . . believe and you will achieve!
You have the power to change your life for the better today. Even if you’ve failed to cure your loneliness many times in the past, you can still turn over a new leaf. In fact, it is the path of failure that leads us to the promised land of success. The more you fail, the closer you get to your goal. Every failure teaches us a valuable lesson. It's up to us to look for those lessons.
Identify what you've done in the past that hasn't worked and change it!
It's important to think positively, believe you can cure loneliness and act! Why wait until tomorrow? Get going and good luck! I know you can do it.
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Richard E. Hamon, LMFT Licensed Therapist & Certified Coach
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