Learn How to Combat Loneliness, Solve Relationship Problems and Lead A Happier Life
If you want to combat loneliness, it may be easier than you think! This article will show you how to decrease loneliness, improve your relationships and feel happier and more fulfilled. You'll learn how to combat loneliness by following successful techniques I've used in my therapy and coaching practice.
OK, you feel lonely. And if that's not enough, you end up feeling ashamed of being lonely . . . and that's a double whammy. There's no doubt about it, chronic loneliness is a tough nut to crack. But there are ways to combat loneliness and beat the loneliness syndrome. Take it from me . . .I've been helping people do it for over 30 years.
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As a professional helper, I have always specialized in relationships. Dealing with relationships has taught me, well, a lot about relationships! Allow me to share some of my relationship knowledge with you. Below you'll find some easy and straight-forward ideas on how you can improve your relationships and combat loneliness
. . . and start feeling better right away.
1. Avoid feeling sorry for yourself. Yes, it is inevitable that everyone will get lonely once in a while. So we'll all eventually fall into the self-pity trap, but once we become aware of what we are doing we can stop! Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves, it's wise to be proactive and do something positive.
Okay, I admit this may not be easy, but it really pays off if you try to combat loneliness in the right way. Below you'll find an example of how I handled a bout of loneliness last week. So . . . I was thinking, I'm feeling a little down and out, and I'm starting to feel sorry for myself. OK, I can fight fire with fire . . . I can win this battle against loneliness.
Here's How I Attempted to Combat Loneliness
I went to a little cafe and bought a sandwich and a cup of decaf, and just breathed in the silence. Smelled the coffee and wonderful food scents. Listened to the classical music that was playing. Started up a conversation with an employee of the restaurant and said hello to a few of the customers, and suddenly . . .
I was feeling pretty darn good. I noticed a waitress was looking tired and stressed, so I made a point to be nice to her and try to lift her spirits. I felt a little better by helping her. By the end of the night, the gregarious manager and I were trading embarrassing stories and laughing up a storm!
Also, while I was at the cafe, I wrote a couple of articles like this one, and that made me feel even better. When I went home I called my mother and told her I loved her. Take note that I didn't wait for someone to come along and tell me they loved me! Now, she was touched by words of affection, and that made me feel even better! By the time I went to bed, I was feeling pretty fair, indeed.
In review, if you want to combat loneliness and get rid of the loneliness bug, just remember to take a proactive approach, a step in the right direction. Take an interest in your surroundings. Interact with people. Do something nice for others.
2. Be a friend to yourself. If you have no one to come to your rescue, that's fine . . . you can always help yourself. Spend a little time with yourself enjoying nature. My clients have found, over the years, that a trip to the park or a walk through the woods or a drive to the top of the mountain can make them feel quite a bit better. If you want to learn how to be happy, try reconnecting with nature.
A stroll through the old neighborhood can or walking park can put you in touch with others. When I smile at a stranger I feel less lonely. When I meet an old friend at the arboretum I feel better, too. When I compliment someone on their beautiful dog I always get a warm-heart thank-you in return, and maybe a little pleasant conversation, to boot.
If you want to combat loneliness and stop feeling those lonesome blues, go to a city, state or national park and spend some time in a beautiful natural area. Walk your dog and watch how he gets such tremendous enjoyment from such a simple activity as walking (and sniffing). And, if he's like my Collie, oh, how he derives such joy from peeing on every bush and stick until, well, there is nothing left to squirt.
My dog can make me laugh when nothing else can. He's a life-loving, crazy nut!
3. Recruit music into your life to combat loneliness. Listen to some terrific music, the uplifting kind. Wear headphones and listen for the nuances. Oh, a beautiful song can be so uplifting! It makes positive changes in your brain.
Write a song. Put your feelings into the lyrics and melody. Express yourself in any artistic way and you will feel better! There is hardly any finer therapy on the planet.
4. Read a hilarious book. A book can be such a good friend. And touch the soul.
5. Make contact with another person or touch someone's life. Cure loneliness by . . . calling someone from the past, perhaps a good friend from high school who you may have forgotten. Look up a lost acquaintance. You never know what a great discussion you might have.
A wonderful way to combat loneliness is to carve a pumpkin with your elderly grandmother . . . or someone's elderly grandmother. Or go to the local Senior Citizen's place and paint pumpkins with all the participants. Now you're cooking, or, I mean, painting.
6. Watch Your Thoughts. Catch yourself thinking things like, "Gosh, could the world be any gloomier? I've never felt so badly. This is going to be a terrible day, I just know it!"
When you catch yourself doing this sad, sad self-talk dance, change everything up. Think more logical, uplifting, and empowering thoughts like these: OK, the day is off to a bad start, but I'll fix that . . . I know of some ways I can bring the sunshine out. Yes, it could be gloomier, and I'm thankful for the good things I have. This is going to be a great day, and I know that because I am going to make it a great one!" Changing depressing thought patterns will help you overcome loneliness like nothing else can. And . . .
Research shows that happiness affirmations can help you to stop feeling lonely and lead a happier life. Your positive, light-filled thoughts will affirm and deepen your happiness. For example, in times of distress, simply say to yourself, "My faith will get me through this dark hour."
7. Spend time in prayer, relaxation and meditation. Find a piece of the solitude rock and just sit in the silence, listening to the music that flows within, and get in touch with the cosmic universe. Build your relationship with your Higher Power.
Nothing has ever made me feel better! Thus, I am devoted to the lifelong practice of meditation. It squashes my stress, rockets me past my worries and problems, and centers me oh, so deeply in the sublime traverses within.
When you start feeling better you'll find your relationships improving. And because you will be making some new relationships along the way, you'll feel even happier! Outgoing and optimistic people tend to be the happiest. Yes, happiness is affected by our dispostion. So get busy and do something positive . . . you'll develop your own creative ways to combat loneliness.
Whatever you do, don't give in to lonely feelings and the self-defeating patterns of self-pity. You can combat loneliness by doing something you love, taking positive action steps, and thinking encouraging thoughts. Try something new or do something nice for smeone and you'll be feeling like a million bucks in no time!
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