Passionate relationships make love sizzle. They cause you to levitate above your problems. Impassioned relationships make our brains cook. Or, should I say, our brains stimulate us more when we are in love or impassioned?
We have a bounce in our step. Life seems glorious. Our problems don't matter so much.
Impassioned relationships work very well for both partners, although there can still be conflict and problems. It seems so much easier to solve problems in a relationship that clicks, than in a dead‑beat one. Everyone wants more of the glorious stuff. It is like the fuel of desire. It makes us look forward to every moment and gives us the gusto to embrace life fully.
But people ask, “How do I make my relationship more passionate?” They say, “We’ve lost our passion. We’ve tried to get it back, but it isn’t working. What are we doing wrong?”
"We have no love life any more!"
How do you pump more of the precious elixir into a stalled or lukewarm relationship . . . or a stalled life?
First, it always helps if each person in a relationship is passionate about his/her own life.
If they each partner has a good relationship with himself/herself. If you are passionate about your life, every day starts with your energizing smile. You can't wait to get out of bed! The other people in your life feel the energy and they want to be around you.
If you are passionate about your career, you are going to bring a lot of positive energy into your relationships. That can have a powerful influence for the good on the relationships that matter most.
When each person is energized by his/her work, and they feel a sense of fulfillment because they are doing something they love and believe in, the relationship is going to percolate, baby.
When we view our work as a labor of love . . . we have a sense of mission and purpose in our lives. And we operate on a very high level of congruence. Our lives fit into a plan, a real plan, and we are doing something for a reason, an important reason, something we believe in. We love it and we are passionate about it.
If you are not happy in your line of work, the simple solution is to . . .
Find more fulfilling work - something about which you can truly be passionate. Something you feel you were meant to do or believe in immensely.
You may, however, feel trapped in a job that can never make you happy. If so, it’s time for a change.
Sometimes people don’t want to hear that. They think it’s too much work or they are too old to train for another field. I have found that it is rarely too late.
It's too much work trying to make a Cinderella job fit when you yearn from something better.
What about a dead-end relationship? Well, good news! You may be able to spice up your relationship and bring new life back into an old, musty room.
Careers are like relationships.
1. You can begin by going back to your values and doing more of what's important to you.
2. Fuel the flames of desire by improving your friendship, your bond.
3. Focus on the good and build upon your relationship's strengths. The power of positive thought and action can inspire you to feel and act in brave, new ways.
In passionate relationships, people sometimes want lust or enchantment, not passion. They want passionate relationships to be characterized by that giddy state of affairs that often occurs during the first two or three years of a new relationship.
Mature relationships go through phases and changes, and the couple moves beyond the enchantment phase and settles into a quieter, perhaps more peaceful way of being together. It can be even more beautiful than the excitement of the enchantment phase, if the couple can stop and appreciate the warm glow that comes with knowing and loving each other ever so much more deeply.
Mature relationships can be like fine wine. The difference is subtle, but oh so good. Take time to find and nurture those subtleties.
If you find it difficult to improve your relationship, or to talk about such sensitive issues, therapy or relationship coaching may be able to help.
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The right choice may depend on the severity of the problem and the spouses' ability to level with each other, as well as the amount of anger in the relationship. We can talk about ways coaching can directly benefit your relationships and make you happier and stronger. Relationships that reach their highest potential give life great meaning, happiness, and joy.
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