Why do so many women struggle to avoid mentally abusive relationships?
It's a universal problem, and nearly every woman finds herself in an unhealthy relationship at one time or another. A new romantic interest will usually put his best foot forward, and it can be hard to tell if he's trustworthy, and a good fit. It takes time to see a person's true colors. If a woman feels she has found a new love relationship, and is lonely or in need of validation, she may not see through him, until later.
Also, many women were exposed to their parents' mentally abusive relationships, and never received solid guidance about what constitutes a good, healthy relationship. If your mother or father had a difficult time with relationships, you may find yourself walking in their footsteps.
To help you identify a potentially unhealthy relationship, look for the red flags, or Ten Signs, I've listed below.
Get counseling and face the problems in your relationship. Calling them out into the open is a good practice. You can then begin to deal with them.
If you're in a dangerous or physically challenging relationship, take steps to protect yourself. Call the Abuse Hotline or police, if you are under immediate threat.
For help with abuse, go to the nearest mental health center, women's center, church or synagogue, and ask for help. Do something, don't just take it. You will be at risk, and so will your children or other family members and pets. Controlling, abusive men can endanger your entire network of friends and peers. Do something about it. You don't have to take it. Take steps to protect yourself and your loved ones today.
Look for these signs or red flags . . .
Do the right thing for your children and yourself. Free yourself from an abusive relationship that will take a toll on your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.
Take your time in getting to know your new romantic interest, no matter how interested you may be, and gently guide your new relationship into a responsible, mature phase, over time. You'll avoid getting into a mentally abusive relationship . . . or an unhealthy relationship that may be hard to get out of or end.
Concentrate on building a healthy relationship, free from controlling and abusive behavior, and your healthy relationship will stand the test of time.
Discover the secrets of keeping true love alive. Don't think your relationship is over, if you do have problems. Affairs and other issues can be overcome. And your relationship can grow stronger, especially if you deal with the underlying issues that have contributed to the problems at hand.
But . . . be prepared to walk away if your relationship proves to be unhealthy, and you cannot solve the problems. I have seen hundreds and hundreds of abusive relationships in my professional practice, and I know the pitfalls of rushing into a relationship that looks good on the surface . . .
yet proves to be a source of agony and despair in time.
Follow my healthy relationship tips and you'll safeguard your prized relationships and avoid forming mentally abusive relationships. You'll be happier and better adjusted, and your healthy relationships will bring you great personal satisfaction and joy.
If your partner is struggling with an addiction, try to listen and understand, and give them the support they'll need in their recovery. Avoid judging them, which may only fuel more addictive behavior. Get the secrets into the open and begin the process of dealing with them.
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