What does the research say about happiness? Great relationships are far more causative of happiness than riches. Those who amass fortunes often do so at the expense of their most treasured relationships, and live to regret it. If you really want to be happy, make your relationships a priority.
Many older, wiser people lament their neglected relationships and wish they could start all over again, and put their relationships first. Near Death Exepriencers, who come back to make a new life for themselves, after their brush with death, often seek to make every relationship they have right. They have seen the light and know that love is the only worthwhile purpose in life.
Talk about relationships! I spoke with a wise woman on her 100th birthday. She had lived an amazing life. She spoke of the dire importance of relationships.
As I held Carrie's hand and looked into her eyes, I said, "What is the single most important lesson you have learned in life?"
While looking out the window, where the leaves of her favorite maple tree fluttered in the breeze, she whispered, "Relationships. You've got to have great relationships. Not just good ones. But most people don't.”
“Relationships? Tell me, what do we do wrong?” I asked.
“Most think you can just throw people away and get by with it. What you need to do, and I wish I had known this when I was young, is to put relationships first! When you’re young and foolish you think everyone is expendable.” She shook her head in quiet dismay.
“It’s all about ourselves, isn’t it? We neglect others,” I said.
“We can’t begin to take care of ourselves, or find happiness or success, without being there for others.” She squeezed my hand and groaned, “How many times I have lived to regret my broken relationships. This is my biggest regret.”
“My advice to you is to cultivate your relationships, and make them the best they can be. Make them your number one priority. They will make you strong. Just think of the possibilities. Otherwise, you will end up with regrets that can't be fixed."
"That's tough to do."
She grabbed my arm and said, "True, but nothing is more profoundly satisfying than truly great relationships. Yes, I am going to miss the good, old earth . . ." She glanced at the patch of blue sky that floated above and behind the spreading maple tree. ". . . But I am going to miss the people I love more."
Carrie's breath was faint, but she wanted to say more. "Having good people in your life is just the first part, but then you've got to take care of them. That's where folks go wrong. Our intentions are good, but we’re awfully busy. We get distracted. I want you to promise me that you will love your relationships and cherish them, then life will not disappoint you."
I hope Carrie's story inspires you to embrace your relationships and lead the life of your dreams. It's never too late to build the relationships of your dreams.
Relationships often get overlooked in our mad rush to tend to life's demands, and in our ongoing search to have more and more. The wise person, however, will build a network of powerful relationships as his or her foundation for success. And will take special care to mend broken or failing relationships, never burning a bridge behind him. If you burn a bridge, then build it again as soon as possible.
We can't find our way without the compass of great relationships as our guide; we won’t be happy or successful without them. We won’t ever belong.
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1. Love others as yourself
2. Live by the Golden Rule
3. Let love be the answer to every question or situation
4. Do no harm -- avoid criticism and contempt -- and seek to make everyone's life better in some way
5. Seek to love unconditionally
6. Extend your love to your enemies
7. Love those who are different and those who disagree with you
8. Be neither judge nor jury over others, and cast no stones
9. Find the hidden beauty in everyone
10. Give, give, give
11. Be humble and seek no limelight
12. Express gratitude regularly
13. Be open and accepting and honest about your own faults and seek to overcome them
14. Leave a legacy of love and service you can be proud of
15. Be a team player, and guard against vanity, self-aggrandizement, narcissism and self-adulation
Building wonderful relationships that make you happy and stand the test of time requires skill. The wisest investment you'll ever make is devoting the time and resources needed to learning relationship skills. Did you know that a happy marriage can add 6 - 7 years to your life?
Relationships are worth it.
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Pause for Thought
When you are gone, how will people remember you? What will they say about you? Will they really miss you?
You will be missed if you had great relationships . . . and the ones you leave behind will continue to be inspired by you. Your legacy will go on. The love you gave others will never die, but it will go on living through your loved ones, and their loved ones.
Those who have died but were fortunate enough to come back, often go through a Life Review on the other side, in which they see a movie of their entire lives, and they see all their successes and mistakes. The Life Review misses nothing. And they watch the major events of their lives unfold before their eyes. Often they are filled with shame about the way they treated other people. So, when they return to life, they want nothing more than to fix their mistakes -- the ones they can fix -- and to become a better friend, neighbor, family member, etc. to others.
Why wait until you've had a Life Review to get your relationships right? The time, energy and money you spend investing in your relationships, will be the best investment you've ever made.